So I think I started about 2 or 3 posts about breaking up with JDate but I don't think I ever hit publish because by the time I got around to it, the break-up was long behind me and I didn't give a crap.  The short of it is, I despised online dating. There were too many easy ways to cross someone of my list (as in Him: my ideal first date is sharing a bowl of crab legs. Me: I don't eat crabs and so...NEXT.) and too many creepy people sending me emails and frankly, there are a lot better things I can do for $43/month other than judge and/or be creeped out.

Besides, I wasn't (and am still not) really in the mood to date. I  mean, I've always said if I met someone or I got introduced to someone, I'd give it a whirl. But I don't WANT or NEED to date. I am currently happy being single. If someone something  falls into my bed lap I won't say no. But it's not something I am actively pursuing.

Still, when Dr. Diva sent me the this article, I was intrigued by the concept. And the more I thought about it and the more I talked about it with some single girlfriends, the more I decided I had nothing to lose. And so I decided to get Cheek'd.

Cheek'd, according to their website, "provides a fun and non-intimidating way to meet that intriguing stranger who just sparked your interest."

How they do it: "Because sometimes it's better to let a card do the talking for you, Cheek'd provides members with a deck of 50 cards, each bearing a flirtatious comment to charm and pique the curiosity of your intended. Also on the card, is your unique code linked to a private online profile that you've created. With card in hand, the object of your affection can enter your unique code at, learn more about you and send you a message. Privacy protected and missed connection averted. "

So for $25, I get the following:

* A deck of 50, chic-looking, black business cards with such ice breakers as "act natural - we can get awkward later," "don't look back now," "I dare you," "I forgive you for not noticing me," "I just put all my drinks on your tab," "I am cooler than your ex," "I'm going to make this easy for you," and "mind picking the place for our first date?"

* A brief, chance-to-be-cheeky profile with only 10 things to fill out (SUCK IT eHarmony). Here's the profile and what I have so far:

Profile name:

My zipcode is: Divisible by 2, 4, & 14,046.

I can be found @:

Most played iPod song: Anything not by Justin Bieber.

Last passport stamp: Italy

Next stop:

Favorite board game: Trivial Pursuit

Daily fuel: Anything but BP.

Couldn't live without: Air, water & Internet..

I ♥:

The thought is that while I am out and about, if I see a man who catches my eye, I slip him one of these cards (or ask a girlfriend/waiter/bartender to slip him the card), and if he's intrigued, he can go to the website, punch in my code, and be brought to my profile. If he's still interested, he can email me - without paying (SUCK IT JDate). 

Here's the downside: I see this working well in major metropolitan areas like NYC, Chicago and San Fran. I don't know how ready my Big City in the Deep South is for something this advanced.

Also? Men with girlfriends, fiances and occasionally wives don't wear rings.  Who's to say I am not going to waste a perfectly good "our fate is in your hands" on someone who's not available?

That said, I have nothing to lose.  I ordered the cards hopefully in time for BlogHer. Dr. Diva thought I should give them a spin in NYC although 1) what man in his right mind is going to follow up on a Deliverance zip code? and 2) I am pretty sure BlogHer is all about the HER although Dr. Diva said where there are pretty ladies, men follow and I know my girls are pretty so yeah: maybe we'll spot a not-so-unfortunate XY at the bar or something. Or not.

In the meantime, it's a helluva lot cheaper and lot more interesting than JDate. We'll see what happens.  

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